What Co-Parenting Looks Like To Me
Co-parenting looks like many things and everybody’s relationship with their ex is different. For me, there are times when we are acting as a team and other times, it seems we are foes. Read More “What Co-Parenting Looks Like To Me”
It’s a She Thing! What All Divorced Moms Have in Common
Although I am in a great and heathy place now, I found it extremely difficult in the past to find people to vent to and talk to about my divorce and transition. I believe my family and friends meant well, but they didn’t get it, truly get it. And that’s okay! It’s not their journey to get.
I didn’t need sympathy or woe is me. I needed my dignity. You yearn for a listening ear and supportive, encouraging words. Divorce means change. Read More “It’s a She Thing! What All Divorced Moms Have in Common”
The 5 Best Skills for Coparenting
After a divorce, your emotions are like a rollercoaster. Emotions are high and the very last thing you want to do is be the sensible or mature one. Divorce is the death of your marriage and like any death, you will likely go through the stages of grief like anger and shock. After all, who wants to start over in their 40s? Geez. Although the natural tendency may be to be petty and uncompromising, hopefully you will get to a place of acceptance and remember the bigger picture, your children!
My First Blog Post: Breakups are Hard
Hi there! This is my first blog post. If you haven’t had a chance to read my “About Me” page, I am a divorced mom of two girls, a teenager and school age. Motherhood has been a wonderful experience and has brought me so much joy, but I have to be honest, when I was younger, I never wanted children. What I really dreamed about was a career. The right side of my brain wanted to be a dancer like Debbie Allen from Fame and the left side of my brain wanted to be a bulldog lawyer fighting for justice like Thurgood Marshall, but more importantly, I vowed I would never have children without being married. Ha! Look at life. According to my research, I am part of 8.5 million single mothers with children under the age of 18.
I was married for a very long time and despite my best efforts, my marriage failed. I once heard Eddie Levert comment on the loss of both of his sons, that in this life, we really don’t have control over very much. Lesson learned: You can’t control everything that happens, but you do have control over how you respond. When I changed my mindset, I learned to master change instead of change mastering me.
Second lesson learned: Choices, we make decisions daily and our lives are a product of the choices we make, not our circumstances. As I reflect on my past, deep down in my heart I did have some uncertainty over whether my ex-husband and I were compatible enough to spend the rest of our lives together, but it made sense at the time.
Today is a new day. What I am going to do is drop my youngest daughter off at school and while sipping on a cup of coffee, watch my oldest get on the bus as she head off to school. What a blessing! I choose to be grateful. How about you? Choose differently, let go a little and let life happen.
Health and happiness to you